http://intothyword.org/apps/articles/default.asp?blogid=3844&view=post&articleid=32494&link=1&fldKeywords=&fldAuthor=&fldTopic=0
The classic work of 'Saint Alphonsus de Ligouri' 1696- 1787
"Perfection is founded entirely on the love of God: 'Charity is the bond of perfection;' and perfect love of God means the complete union of our will with God's." The essence of perfection is to embrace the will of God in all things, prosperous or adverse. In prosperity, even sinners find it easy to unite themselves to the divine will; but it takes saints to unite themselves to God's will when things go wrong and are painful to self-love. Our conduct in such instances is the measure of our love of God.
http://intothyword.org/apps/articles/default.asp?blogid=3844&view=post&articleid=60199&link=1&fldKeywords=&fldAuthor=&fldTopic=0
When we start to think and believe more biblically, we will have lives that bring about love and goodness. We can have love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control flowing in, through, and out of us. If we rather focus on what someone did to us or what we did not get, we will bring about chaos and suffering instead of the hope and the prosperity of faith, which is what the Fruit of the Spirit brings to the table of life.